Divorce changes how you interact with your children, but it should not sever the connections that matter. In Illinois, the law prioritizes the best interests of the child in parenting time and parental responsibilities matters, which often includes maintaining a strong relationship with both parents.
Today’s parents know that these relationships often cross physical lines into digital spaces. As such, addressing digital connections and setting virtual boundaries during the other parent’s parenting time can be valuable elements of a modern parenting plan.
Define the digital connection
Illinois courts recognize electronic communication as an important element of a parenting plan. This term covers more than just a phone call; it includes any method that allows you to see or hear your child through technology. For instance, you may want to include these age-appropriate details in your initial agreement:
- Restrictions or rules for video calls via platforms like FaceTime or Zoom for face-to-face interaction
- Limits on text messaging for quick check-ins or sharing photos during the week
- Guidelines for online gaming where a parent and child play together in real time
These digital tools can bridge the gap when the child is at the other parent’s home. They provide a way to say goodnight or hear about a school project in the moment. Specifying use cases for these tools can ensure parents do not infringe on each other’s parenting time, intentionally or not.
Set clear boundaries for success
Vague terms like “reasonable access” could lead to disagreements and a return to the courtroom. Specifying the time, frequency and privacy of digital interactions during the divorce process can reduce confusion and intrusion. You might consider negotiating the specific hours for digital contact and ensuring the child has a private space to speak freely.
This level of detail removes the guesswork and reduces the chance of future conflict between parents. It also helps the child feel secure, knowing they have a sanctioned time to connect with their other parent without feeling like they are interrupting the current household’s schedule.
A forward-thinking parenting plan gives your family a clear roadmap for the years ahead. Addressing electronic communication today can preserve your bond with your child as your family navigates difficult transitions.